Rishtoon Main Aittadal Married Life Tips

jabir razi allah taala anho bayan karte hain ke rasool akram sale allah alaihi wasallam ne khutba ’alvidah’ ke mauqa par farmaya :
( tum aurton ke baray mein allah taala se daro, bilashuba tum ne inhen allah taala ki Amaan se haasil kya hai, aur un ki sharamgahon ko allah taala ke kalma se halal kya hai, un par tumhara haq yeh hai ke jisay tum napasand karte ho woh tumahray ghar mein daakhil nah ho, agar woh aisa karen to tum inhen maar ki saza do jo zakhmi nah kere aur shadeed takleef da nah ho, aur un ka tum par yeh haq hai ke tum inhen achay aur Ahsen andaaz se nan o nafqa aur rahaish do ) sahih muslim
mein ne poori imandari se hadees shareef code ki he. aurat se mutaliq ehkamaat bilkul bhi hazf nahi kiye. agar hadees shareef mein farmaya gaya he ke” inhen maar ki saza do” to sath yeh bhi farmaya gaya he ke” aisi maar ho jo zakhmi nah kere aur shadeed takleef bhi nah day” yeh bhi biwi ke haqooq mein se hai ke khawand is ke liye apni wusat aur taaqat ke mutabiq rahaish tayyar kere .

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Allah Subhana وتعالی ka farmaan hai :
tum apni taaqat ke mutabiq jahan tum rehtay ho wahan inhen bhi rahaish Pazeer karo سورہالطلاق ( 6 )
biwi ka –apne khawand par haq hai. agar is ki aur bhi biwiyan hon to woh un ke darmiyan raat guzaarne, nan o nafqa aur rahaish waghera mein Adal o insaaf kere .
khawand par wajib hai ke woh apni biwi se achay ikhlaq aur narmi ka bartao kere, aur apni wusat ke mutabiq usay woh ashya paish kere jo is ke liye mohabbat o ulfat ka باعث hon. nah ke biwi ko ahmit hi nah day. baat be baat intehai dil soaz royih ikhtiyar kere. –apne sakht royie aur buray ikhlaq se biwi ki sakht dil shikni kere. . .
is liye ke Allah taala ka farmaan hai :
وعاشروْهن بالْمعْ-روْف? فانْ كرهْتموْهن ف-عسى انْ تكْ-رهوْا شیْئا ویجْعل الل-ه فیْه خیْ-را كثیْ-را ( 19 )
aur aurton ke sath achi terhan se zindagi busr karo, agar woh tumhe na pasand hon to mumkin hai ke tumhe aik cheez pasand nah aaye magar allah ne is mein bohat kuch bhalai rakhi ho .
allah ne is zawiye ke mutabiq bhi farma diya jo kisi bhi mard ke dil mein aa sakta he. ke agar kisi wajah se biwi mein aap ko agar aik cheez napasand ho to bhi sabr se kaam lo ho sakta he allah ne isi cheez mein tumhare liye bhalai rakhi ho. . .
ابوھریرہ razi Allah taala anho bayan karte hain ke nabi sale allah alaihi wasallam ne farmaya :
( aurton ke baray mein meri naseehat qubool karo aur un se husn muashrat ka muzahira karo ) sahih bukhari hadees number ( 3153 ) sahih muslim hadees number ( 1468 ) .
lehaza jo mard joint family nizaam ke tehat walidain, walida, behan, bhabhee ya biwi ke darmiyan har aik ke rishte o mansab ke aitbaar se haqooq ada nahi kere ga. woh burrows qayamat jawabdeh ho ga. joint family nizaam mein umooman biwi sab se ziyada istehsal ki shikaar hoti he. . .
walidain ke ehsanaat to insaan saari zindagi nahi chuka sakta. behnain bhi bohat Aziz hoti hain, behnoon ka pyar bhi be los hota he. lekin yaad rakhiye biwi se mutaliq bhi islam ne sakht takeed farmai he. ke biwi ke sath achay ikhlaq se paish aao aur is ke tamam jaaiz haqooq ada karo. biwi ki dil aazari mat karo .
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woh jo tumhare liye –apne walidain, apna ghar, –apne tamam rishte sanwi darjay par chore kar sirf tumhare liye nikah jaisi Shariat ki muqaddas dor se bndh kar tumhare ghar aa jati he. to phir is naye rishte ka paas rakhna bhi tumahra hi farz he. is naye bandhan ko mohabbat, ehsas aur khobsorat royie ke sath mazboot tar karna mard hi ki avolin zimma daari he .
yaad rakhiye kamyaab insaan wohi hota he jo mohabbaton aur rishton mein sab se pehlay aur sab se ziyada mithaas peda karta he. . .
un tamam rishton mein agar biwi ka rishta khoon ka rishta nahi he to is ka ghair ahm ya aakhri qader par mat rakho balkay biwi tumhari duniya ki behtareen saathi he jis ko allah ne tumhare liye muntakhib kya he. biwi ke allag se bohat ahm haqooq hain .
jbhi to nabi kareem sale allah alyhe wasallam ne khutba حجتؐ ’alvidah’ mein apni aurton se acha bartao karne ki takeed farmai thi. . .
tamam rishton mein mohabbat aur عتدال ka maamla kar saknay wala mard hi darasal mard kehlata he. jis mard mein itni bhi ahliat nahi ke maa behan biwi aur bhabhee ki mojoodgi mein charon rishton ko un ke haqooq o manzilat ke mutabiq izzat day sakay woh yaqeen kiijiye waqai mard kehlanay ke qabil nahi he .
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lehaza Bashmole mere tamam mard hazraat ko is nuktay par ghhor o khoz karni چاھیئے aur –apne kirdaar o royie se tamam rishton ke dil jeet saknay wala ban kar rehna چاھیئے agar dil jeena mumkin nah bhi ho to kam az kam kisi rishte ki dil aazari mat kere, kyunkay tamam hi rishte ahm aur –apne –apne daira car mein lazim hain. . .

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